Breaking the Silence: A Journey From Pain to Empowerment

Breaking the Silence: A Journey From Pain to Empowerment

In 2011, I found myself returning to the home of my parents, grappling with a fierce addiction to Fentanyl. My health was compromised due to a series of issues with my reproductive organs that led to over 20 surgeries. This, however, is a story for another day. The story I want to share today is one of survival, resilience and the power of speaking up.

One night, after falling asleep on the couch, I woke up to a horrifying reality. My stepfather, in a drunken stupor, had violated me. The experience left me traumatized, yet when we reported this assault to the police, my voice was dismissed. They claimed it was a case of his word against mine, suggesting that I had been drinking, which was entirely untrue. Even if it were, it was irrelevant. The blame was misplaced, and my call for justice was ignored.

Several years passed, and the world around me began to change. When Donald Trump announced his presidential campaign and the #MeToo movement gained traction, buried emotions resurfaced. The realization hit me: I had been assaulted, and the support I needed was nowhere to be found. The corrupt practices of the Sarnia police had failed me.

In the wake of this realization, I hit rock bottom. Despair led me to an overdose, a desperate cry for escape. But death didn't come. Instead, I found myself in rehab, pushed into recovery by my father.

Not long after my rehabilitation, I met my partner online. When I opened up to him about what had happened, he responded with a question that haunts me to this day: "What did you do to make your stepfather think it was okay to do that to you?" It was a question that reeked of victim-blaming, yet, at the time, I felt compelled to explain myself.

Looking back, I realize those were red flags I should not have ignored. Today, I am stronger, wiser, and ready to take a stand. I am ready to speak up about my sexual assault, and the people who excused my stepfather's actions and remained in his life. I am ready to challenge the normalization of sexual abuse that I experienced because of that incident.

This post is more than just my story. It is my stand against the injustices I've faced and a call to action for others who have experienced similar trauma. It's time for us to speak up, to challenge the systems that have failed us, and to create a world where everyone is heard, believed, and supported in their journey to healing and justice.

If you are experiencing, or have experienced sexual abuse, or you are unsure if you have, please reach out to me or a community resource. You are not alone.


Read the raw and unedited first 30,000 words of my memoir, eSCAPEGOAT - UNTOUCHED

In my powerful memoir,  eSCAPEGOAT, I will share my incredible journey of survival and triumph over a lifetime of trauma. From sexual assault and domestic violence to divorce, reproductive issues, and bearing witness to three murder trials, I have faced more than my fair share of challenges. 

 But my story doesn't end there. I found myself raising my sister's premature twin babies, which were a surprise to us,  with no support from my family because they have all passed away. 

 Through sheer determination and unwavering strength, I have embraced my role as a mother and found a renewed sense of purpose. My grandmother, who passed away on my birthday two years ago, remains my spirit guide, and her memory has helped me find the strength to overcome even the most difficult moments. 

"With poignancy and grace, eSCAPEGOAT is a testament to the human spirit and a powerful reminder that we are all capable of overcoming the greatest of challenges. This memoir is a must-read for anyone who has faced unimaginable adversity, and a source of inspiration for those who know what it means to persevere."



This book will be published when I obtain an agent for proper support.

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